The Art Of Letting Go
We have all had to let go of things at some point or another. Whether it be a pet, friend, boyfriend, or your favorite pair of jeans. We are constantly ending chapters in order to start new ones. Completely letting go and allowing ourselves to heal and look to the future with optimism and excitement can be difficult to achieve. Our tendency can be to focus on “what used to be” and idealistically hold on to the past as if it had everything we ever wanted. However, it ultimately causes agony. It doesn’t encourage growth, and it doesn’t help us move forward.
We search for happiness in various places, but we often look outside of ourselves to fulfill it. To achieve true fulfillment and felicitousness, we have to go deeper. Few ways to master the art of letting go:
Let go of the past and find forgiveness. Grievances and anger at a person or situation in the past only hurts us. Those destructive thoughts bring up viciousness, resentment, or sadness, and as they keep spinning in our minds, they impact our health and well-being in a negative way. We think we target the person or situation that hurts us, but in the end, we only hurt ourselves. How can we break out of that pattern? When we can let go of the past and find forgiveness, which does not mean that we approve of what happened, we can unbrace ourselves from the past. Once free from those burdens, we open ourselves up to welcome new opportunities into our lives. We learn from our experiences and set new intentions. Let’s open the page to the new chapter in our lives. May it be happy.
Let go of expectations and find gratitude. With our perception of the world, habits and predilection, we shape our outlook on how things or people should be. More often than not, things don’t go exactly the way we want them to, and others live their lives according to their own perceptions, beliefs, and thoughts. When we can let go of expectations, we free ourselves from disappointment and sadness. Can you change your perspective on how you see the world, let go of old patterns, and embrace what is with all your gratitude? As you cultivate gratitude, your awareness will shift to the abundance of all you have, and the voice of expectations and complaints will become softer.
Let go of worrying about the future and find content in the present moment. Often our thoughts take us somewhere into the future where we dream about something or someone and start worrying about things that may never happen. It is only natural for our minds to think, however, once we pay attention to the quality of our thoughts, we can choose the way we think, and consequently, the way we feel. So next time your thoughts take you away, bring yourself back into the present moment, take a few deep, long breaths, and realize that everything you have is here, right now and this moment is just fine.
Let go of toxic people and find yourself.
In any healthy relationship, love is circular – when you give love, it comes back. When what comes back is the scrappy, ungenerous intent under the guise of love, it will eventually leave you small and depleted. Happy people welcome the support and growth of the people they love, even if it means having to change a little to accommodate. When one person changes, whether it’s a relationship of two or a family of many, it can be challenging. Even the strongest and most loving relationships can be touched by feelings of covetous, insufficiency and insecurity at times in response to somebody’s growth or happiness. We are all vulnerable to feeling the very normal, messy emotions that come with being human.
The trick here is not to focus so heavily on things, situation and people that drag you down. Find solace, peace and salvation within yourself. Forgive yourself and others for your mental and inner peace.
Blue inked Fingers.